I didn't find this group, they found me! Read the posts then bought the audio version of TDBF and realized it was written about me. (as most of the guys in here say) I joined the group, the frat and am on my way to being the best version of myself. An awesome bunch of guys from all over the world who are all here for each other no matter what. So much knowledge from men who have been through it all and are willing to assist each other. One of the best investments in my self improvement I have ever made.

How many times do you do something expecting a certain reaction or outcome from you wife only to be confronted with the opposite of what you expected. Perhaps you are at the stage where you don't expect anything and have given up on your relationship. Maybe you have "lost" your male friends somewhere along the way in the daily grind of life and miss those discussions and good times that good male friends provide. I joined the DSO Fraternity due to not being happy with my current situation in life. I learned that it was no body's fault but mine and I had to get myself sorted out before I could help others or expect them to sort themselves out. I still have some way to go on my quest to be a better man however I have access to a group of guys that can help me along the way and keep me accountable so I do not slip back to the way I was. My favourite part of being part of the group is being able to give back with some advice that could help someone else. The online meetings are great especially when I can attend them live and participate as the coaches and other attendees can chip in with advice there and then as can I. The Facebook group is where we get to share experiences as well as ask for advice from each other too and the coaches often contribute. The DSO Fraternity is a great place for men to gather in order to sort out their relationships and indeed lives and be comfortable in sharing their issues for others to resolve. I think of it as getting together with some guys to chew things over and sort things out. The issues can be serious or light hearted. These days many of us have lost contact with our male friends as we thought we were doing the right "Nice Guy" things by staying around the home with the family. The Fraternity brings some of that back while encouraging the development and reconnection with other men. The group is not anti-women which is also great and we get to hear the female perspective of some of the coaches wives and other women in their lives. If you are a man who is feeling lost, frustrated and or alone then this the group you need to help get you back in the game.

I found the DBF book in the throws of racking my brain on how to save my marriage. It had become stale. Bedroom was in the tank. I was essentially “friend zoned” in my marriage. The book opened my eyes to how exactly I had created this environment I hated so much. I subsequently found the group, and shortly after it’s introduction, I joined the Fraternity. Initially, it was the discounted coaching rates that got me in. Then you start to become familiar with other men who you find have a lot in common with you and your situation. You learn lessons from others, and even, gain ideas of things to implement in your relationship. A year after beginning this journey, my marriage is as strong as it’s ever been. We are in a good place, and I credit DSO, the coaches, and this Fraternity with helping me save my marriage. Without them, I’d have been the Captain of a ship without a compass. Whether your goal is to salvage a marriage in throws of a Dead Bedroom, or getting over divorce, infidelity, fitness, or just general self improvement, this Fraternity has something (and a coach) to offer you. And it doesn’t matter (pretty much) what part of the world you’re in, there’s someone close by! If any of this applies to you, give it a go. It’s 14 bucks, you’re on the internet researching this topic for a reason. And I can tell you, you won’t regret it!

I was still dealing with resentment following my wife’s Emotional Affair that happened a number of years ago. Our sex life is active but I was miserable and in my mind she was using sex to keep me. This is the cycle that started during the EA. Things got really hot after I confronted her. DSO and the men in the group have helped me see how I was creating this dynamic by not allowing forgiveness and trust after so long. The men here also helped me with my anger issues. The men here are about helping ea bother be the best they can be. Are supportive and honest. I am leading a much more satisfying life with the help of the men here. Giving back to the men who have helped me and paying it forward to the new members joining is also an amazing feeling.